Love,
on other hand, is friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows
-- one day at a time.
Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager, but not genuinely happy. There are nagging thoughts, unanswered questions, little bits and pieces about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine too closely. It might spoil the dream. Love is
the quiet understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real.
It gives you strength and grows beyond you - to bolster your beloved. You
are warned by his presence, even when he is away. Long distances do not
separate you. You want him near, but near or far, you know he is yours
and you can wait.
Infatuation says, " we must get married right away. I can't risk losing him. " Love says,
" be patient. Don't panic. He is yours. Plan for your future with confidence."
Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. If you are honest, you will admit it is difficult to be in one another's company unless you are sure it will end in intimacy. Love is
the maturation of friendship. You must be friends before you can be lovers.
Infatuation lacks confidence. When he's away, you wonder if he's cheating, sometimes you even check. Love means
trust. You are calm, secure and unthreatened. He feels that trust and it
makes him even more trustworthy.
Infatuation might lead you to do things you'll regret later, but love never will. Love is an upper. It makes you look up. It makes you think up. It makes you a better person than you were before.
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