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There are times when we are timid and shy about expressing the love we feel. For fear of embarrassing the other person, or ourselves, we hesitate to say the actual words "I love you." So we try to communicate the idea in other words.

We say '  " take care  " ' or 'don't drive too fast' or 'be good.' But really, these are just other ways of saying 'I love you,' 'you are important  to me,' 'I care what happens to you,' 'I don't want you to get hurt.' We are sometimes very strange people. The only thing we want to say, and the one thing that we should say, is the one thing we don't say. And yet, because the feeling is so real, and the need to say it is so strong, we are driven to use other words and signs to say what we really mean. And many times the meaning never gets communicated at all  and the other person is left  feeling unloved and unwanted. 

Therefore, we have to LISTEN FOR LOVE in the words that people  are saying to us. Sometimes the explicit words are necessary, but more often, the manner of saying things is even more important. A
joyous insult  carries more affection and love within the sentiments which are expressed insincerely. An impulsive hug says I LOVE YOU even though the  words might be saying  very different. 

Any expression of a person's concern for another says I love you. Sometimes the expression is clumsy, sometimes even cruel. Sometimes we  must look and listen very intently for the love that contains. But it is often there, beneath the surface. A mother may nag her son constantly about his grades or cleaning his room. The son may hear only the nagging, but if he listens carefully,  he will hear the love underneath the nagging. His mother  wants him to do  well, to be successful. Her concern and love for her son  unfortunately emerge  in her nagging. But it is love all the same.

A daughter comes home late, way past her curfew, and her father confronts her with angry words. The daughter may hear only the anger,  but if she listens carefully, she will hear the love under the anger. "I was worried about you," the father  is saying. "Because I care about you  and I love you. You are important to me."

We say I love you in many ways- with birthday gifts, and little notes, with smiles and sometimes with tears. Sometimes we show our love by  just keeping quiet and not saying a word, at other times by speaking out,  even brusquely. We show our love sometimes by impulsiveness. Many  times we  have to show our love by forgiving someone who has not listened to the love we have tried to express.

The problem is listening for love is that we don't always  understand the language of love which the other person is using.

A girl may use tears or emotions to say what she wants to say, and her boyfriend may not understand her because he expects her to be talking his language.

Thus, we have to force ourselves to really listen for love. The problem with  our world is that people rarely listen to each other. They hear the words, but they don't listen to the actions that accompany the   words or the expression on the face. Or people listen only for rejection or misunderstanding.  They do not see the love that is there just beneath the surface, even if the words are angry.

We have to listen for love in those around us. If we listen intently we will discover that we are a lot more loved than we realize.

Listen for love and we will find that the world is a very loving place, after all.

                        LOVE is   a happy thing.
                        It makes us laugh.

                        It makes us  sing.

                        It makes us  sad.

                        It makes us cry.

                        It makes us seek  the reason why.

                        It makes us take.

                        It makes us  give.

                        Above all else it makes us  LIVE.

 It is not the presence or absence of people that makes the difference because a person  need not be lonely even if he is alone.

                      Sometimes it is good to be alone.
                      But that does not make us lonely.
                      It is not a matter of being present WITH someone.
                      It is a matter of being present TO someone.
                      So remember...
                      If you love someone, tell them.
                      Remember always to say what you mean.
                      Never be afraid to express yourself.
                      Take this opportunity to tell someone
                      what they mean to you.
                      Seize the day and have no regrets.

                      Most importantly, stay close to your
                      friends and family, for they have helped
                      make you the person that you are today
                      and are what it's all about anyway.

                      The difference between
                      expressing love and having regrets
                      is that the regrets may stay around forever.


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